If it’s your first time at a barbershop, you might feel out of place. Most places are first-come, first-served. If you’re there for the first time, it’s customary to take the next available barber. If you’ve grown to like a particular barber, simply sit behind his chair and wait until he is free. Once you’re in the barber’s chair, he or she will ask a few questions about how you like your hair, how you want your sideburns handled, etc.
If you know your clipper blade number or have any styles in mind, request it. Sometimes it helps to bring a photo of what you want. You’ll save money on salon prices – plan to spend around $10-15 for a fresh cut, give or take, with a few bucks for a tip.
The barber shop experience can be pretty intimidating for some trans folks, especially for pre- or non-transition guys. You might be nervous, but at the end of the day, you’re a paying customer and the barber’s job is to help you. Plus, many cis women prefer barber shops to hair salons, so the idea that a barbershop is a “boys-only club” isn’t the case.
Picking a Style That Works for You
While many barbers or stylists can help suggest styles that would work for you, it helps to know what look fits your style, hair type, and face.
In general, you want to pick a hair style that complements your best features or plays off of your bone structure. So, if you have a rounder face, sticking to square styles and a side part can help create edges that balance you out.
If you have wider cheekbones and a diamond-shaped face, adding height and layers by sweeping bangs up will make you look great.
“Shouldn’t I Just Cut It Super Short and Be Done with It?”
The question of whether to simply opt for a super short haircut is one that many individuals, particularly those in the trans community, often grapple with. It might seem like the easiest option, and one that could potentially help with passing in public. However, it’s important to remember that a haircut is not just about practicality, but also about self-expression and feeling comfortable in your own skin.
Choosing to buzz your hair off might seem like a quick fix, but it could also mean sacrificing the opportunity to highlight your natural good looks and personal style. Moreover, with the increasing popularity of shorter haircuts among cisgender women, both gay and straight, a buzzcut might not necessarily help with passing as much as one might think.
Things to Consider if You’re Looking to Pass in Public
If you’re looking to pass in public, there are several things to consider. One of the most noticeable differences between typically male and female haircuts is the treatment of sideburns. While most women have angled sideburns, most men tend to cut their sideburns straight across. If your barber is not reading you as male and is unconsciously giving you a more feminine cut, don’t hesitate to specify that you want a masculine or angular cut.
Another aspect to consider is the texture of your hair. If your hair is naturally “fuzzy” or “downy”, it might give a more feminine appearance. In such cases, using hair products to style your hair and keep it under control can be beneficial.
Some Golden Rules of Haircare Advice
- Don’t shampoo every day, especially if you have dry or coarse hair. Some shampoos can strip away oils from your hair and leave your hair and scalp feeling dry. Plus it’s often easier to style hair that is washed once every few days.
- Conditioner: a healthy scalp means healthy, softer hair. Use it!
- Avoid gels that leave your hair looking too crunchy or too wet. Try pomades, putty, fiber pastes, and other products with decent hold and a matte finish.
- Aim for a haircut every 4-6 weeks, depending on your style. The shorter you go, the more you’ll want to go to keep it looking sharp.
As we delve into our comprehensive FTM Hairstyle Guide, we address the top five frequently asked questions that revolve around the transition process, providing valuable insights and inspiration for your new look.
In conclusion, navigating the world of barbershops and finding the perfect hairstyle can seem like a daunting task, especially for those who are new to it. However, with a bit of knowledge and understanding, it can become an enjoyable and rewarding experience.
Remember, the key to a great haircut lies in understanding your own style, preferences, and what suits your face shape and personality. Don’t be afraid to communicate openly with your barber about what you want. They are professionals who are there to help you look your best.
Moreover, it’s important to remember that everyone’s journey with their hair is unique. What works for one person might not work for another. It’s all about trial and error, and finding what makes you feel confident and comfortable.
Finally, remember to enjoy the process. Visiting a barbershop isn’t just about getting a haircut. It’s a cultural experience, a tradition that has been passed down through generations. So sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride. After all, it’s not just about looking good, it’s about feeling good too.